Pregnancy denial after the gender reveal: my story, a message for all mothers

Some words could shock some people, but these are true feelings that we can’t manage… Here is my story:

As a photographer specializing in newborns, pregnancy, and families, I am surrounded every day by emotions: joy, excitement, and sometimes anxiety. Today, I want to share something more personal — my own story. A story about a feeling I never thought I would experience: pregnancy denial after finding out my baby's gender.

When I found out I was pregnant with my second child, I had a deep hope: having a little girl. I already had a little boy, and I dreamed of that special mother-daughter bond.
So when I was told I was expecting another little boy… my world crumbled inside.

I didn't expect it, but I went through a real pregnancy denial. For several weeks, I couldn't connect with my baby. I didn't want to think about the pregnancy anymore. I didn't want this baby. It was intense and painful, but very real.

Today, I want to say something very important: I am not ashamed of what I felt.
What I went through was human. These feelings — as unsettling as they can be — do not make us "bad" mothers. They simply show the strength of our dreams, our expectations, and sometimes the difficulty of letting go of the child we imagined.

Fortunately, my story has a happy ending.
I turned to a microkinesiologist, a gentle therapy that works on emotional memories stored in the body. It helped me tremendously. Little by little, I accepted the pregnancy, reconnected with my baby, and welcomed him with all the love he deserved.
I even managed to have a natural birth without medical assistance — a deeply meaningful personal victory for me!

To all the mothers who might feel this way:

You are not alone.
Feeling sadness, rejection, or even anger after learning your baby's gender is not a crime — nor is it a shame. It's a real feeling that needs to be acknowledged, not buried.

Talk about it.
With people you trust, with a professional, with a midwife, or a therapist. Speak up. Silence only makes the pain heavier.

Seek support.
There are ways to heal: gentle therapies, microkinesiology, emotional support from perinatal specialists... You deserve to be listened to and supported with kindness.

If this story resonates with you, please remember:
You are not alone.
Sending love and support, from one mother to another ♥

Last words:

Destiny does things well, because in 2022, I discovered that I was pregnant again, it was not expected at all…. And big surprise: It was a girls ♥.

Today, I am a proud and fulfilled mother of two wonderful boys and one girl whom I love more than anything ♥ ♥ ♥.